G's guide to 'going for it'

Well, ani has been bugging me to post something for some time now, and i've finally managed to write something down. The contents of this blog is essentially derived from late night highly philosophical conversations with a certain personwho will remain nameless to preserve my dignity. I will say however, that hes a charmer, and he certainly knows what hes talking about.

First step: the list. Everyone has one, so dont try telling me you have no idea what im on about. This is a list comprising of all the 'possibles', in order of preference of course (we will work out suitability later).

Next comes the background research. A quick checklist:
1) is he single?
2) does he have a reputation?
3) is he a manwhore? (if so, do i care that he is a manwhore?)
4) is he on the list of any close friends?
... you get the idea.

Now comes the fun part. we need some groundwork, we need a location and we need a plan of attack. Groundwork can be anything from polite chit-chat about the weather to 6-hour conversations stretching long into the night. basically, you want him to know you're alive and you're single. If you cant get this far, at least get someone to check he knows who you are.

The location itself is not so important, but does still take planning. having said that, make sure its appropriate and willactually work. Formal after-parties tend to give the idea youre out for a random hookup, smaller birthdays or gatheringswill do the opposite. Decide if you want the "well fancy seeing you here" thing, or let him know before-hand that you will be there. If you tell him ahead dont make it sound like a definite plan.. make it sound a little ambiguous, like you cant decide if you should do that or something cooler. (remember, you're trying to talk yourself up here)

aaand finally we get to the all-important plan of attack. Much of it will depend on how your groundwork has gone. If you're lucky the night will be easy and he'll come to you. In this case, sit back, relax and enjoy. However, much of the time we are not so lucky. I know there are many many opinions about what to dofrom here. The 'get drunk, slide over to him - preferably when he's drunk - and hope for the best' idea mentioned in previous postsdoes have its benefits. It can work but please, make sure you get the right guy before you slide.. dont end up in kissing a complete random and never living it down. (not that any of us have ever been in that situation :P)

Find a way to get close to him, dancing, getting 'cold', passing out on his lap.. the possibilites are endless. use some creativity,some ingenuity. Position yourself so that youre looking up to him (give him a sense of power), into his eyes. The 90-10 theoryworks well in this situation to avoid embarassments, but basically if youve got to here, you're set. GO FOR IT!

Well there are my wise words of advice. Hope its either helpful or amusing. go out, find a boy and have some fun!

xxx