Apparently, i'm turning out to be quite traditional.
Now, this isn't a complete surprise. Unfortunately, i am my mother's daughter in many ways. SHE is very traditional. Same sex marriages, no sex before marriage, various other slightly archaic trains of thoughts... I'm not like her on many of these points. Same sex marriage doesn't really bother me, that's for that couple to decide and not for me to judge. But it's starting to look like i'm leaning towards her train of thought on the no-sex-before-marriage front.
As a 20-yr-old loser who's never had a date, much less a boyfriend, the issue hasn't really come up in a major way. I know for a fact that sex isn't happening until i'm in a very serious relationship. Whether i wait until i'm married remains to be seen. But whatever, that's not my point.
My point lies in the fact that people seem to have a bit of a problem with my standpoint. All of my close friends have slept with people. Whatever, that's their call. But i get 'comments' from my friends, all of whom know i've not gone there. "You're being hell traditional dude" *negative inflection* was the one i got today. "You'll cave, trust me" was another. They think they're being funny, and they thing they're being all-knowing, predicting that i'll give in. I won't. I don't want to do that any time soon. I not not doing it to be traditional, or to make a statement, i'm just not going to do it. I don't need people snickering at me, thinking i'm naive or stupid. I'm not going to cave just because other people think that i should.
I know that some of my friends caved to peer pressure, or rushed things because they thought that it was pathetic to get to 20 and not have slept with anyone. I don't know if they regret it. But i don't want to regret it, so i'm not taking any chances.
I know i go with the flow. I know i conform and i don't like to go against what people think i should be - most of the time. But if it's important, i'll hold my ground and do what's right for me. People shouldn't judge and mock me for it.
It's important. I'm not budging. Apparently, i'm more traditional than i thought. People should stop paying me out!
Now, this isn't a complete surprise. Unfortunately, i am my mother's daughter in many ways. SHE is very traditional. Same sex marriages, no sex before marriage, various other slightly archaic trains of thoughts... I'm not like her on many of these points. Same sex marriage doesn't really bother me, that's for that couple to decide and not for me to judge. But it's starting to look like i'm leaning towards her train of thought on the no-sex-before-marriage front.
As a 20-yr-old loser who's never had a date, much less a boyfriend, the issue hasn't really come up in a major way. I know for a fact that sex isn't happening until i'm in a very serious relationship. Whether i wait until i'm married remains to be seen. But whatever, that's not my point.
My point lies in the fact that people seem to have a bit of a problem with my standpoint. All of my close friends have slept with people. Whatever, that's their call. But i get 'comments' from my friends, all of whom know i've not gone there. "You're being hell traditional dude" *negative inflection* was the one i got today. "You'll cave, trust me" was another. They think they're being funny, and they thing they're being all-knowing, predicting that i'll give in. I won't. I don't want to do that any time soon. I not not doing it to be traditional, or to make a statement, i'm just not going to do it. I don't need people snickering at me, thinking i'm naive or stupid. I'm not going to cave just because other people think that i should.
I know that some of my friends caved to peer pressure, or rushed things because they thought that it was pathetic to get to 20 and not have slept with anyone. I don't know if they regret it. But i don't want to regret it, so i'm not taking any chances.
I know i go with the flow. I know i conform and i don't like to go against what people think i should be - most of the time. But if it's important, i'll hold my ground and do what's right for me. People shouldn't judge and mock me for it.
It's important. I'm not budging. Apparently, i'm more traditional than i thought. People should stop paying me out!
2 comments:
You be who you are.. that's all you need to be.
Oh and your blog is the randomly selected feature blog of the month at HoT. :)
Good for you...hold your ground...
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